tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6441168213084499367.post668635037625071886..comments2024-03-11T12:46:28.806-04:00Comments on You. Me. Ride This Crazy Train - Adventures and Observations on The GO: HarryC.J. Smithhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03325979176373626807noreply@blogger.comBlogger19125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6441168213084499367.post-66933086556093613802015-08-01T08:52:05.477-04:002015-08-01T08:52:05.477-04:00Just a comment regarding the choice of location of...Just a comment regarding the choice of location of the LTC facility : maybe there was no choice. <br /><br />My MIL has been on a waiting list for about three years now, and the two options that became available during that time were in Millbrook and Cobourg. We are north of Newmarket and her daughter is in Oshawa, as is she. <br /><br />Fortunately we have been able to keep her in a retirement home in Oshawa, but not everyone has the money to afford that option. Sylvnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6441168213084499367.post-51035202534475353912015-07-30T21:16:25.765-04:002015-07-30T21:16:25.765-04:00I totally agree. I will talk to him tactfully. I totally agree. I will talk to him tactfully. C.J. Smithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03325979176373626807noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6441168213084499367.post-86908360087477472182015-07-30T20:13:58.312-04:002015-07-30T20:13:58.312-04:00The Oshawa Senior Citizens Centres run day program...The Oshawa Senior Citizens Centres run day programs as well as other programs (clubs etc.) - a friend says her father has been attending for years and loves the interaction with others, the groups and the programs. Something he might find interesting if time is heavy.<br /><br />CJ I think it's great that you took an interest this way and took the time to stop and talk. Everyone is so busy and rushed these days - we need more time spent just being a good community.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6441168213084499367.post-86397797832852281422015-07-30T15:12:06.568-04:002015-07-30T15:12:06.568-04:00We should definitely find a way to lighten Harry&#...We should definitely find a way to lighten Harry's life...Too many elderly men and women are "quite lonely" and I suspect that, in his current state of bereavement he might well fall further into that state without some gentle encouragement...Nora1968noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6441168213084499367.post-86442072934032824982015-07-30T15:12:01.042-04:002015-07-30T15:12:01.042-04:00Hubby says he'd like to keep the lake private....Hubby says he'd like to keep the lake private...C.J. Smithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03325979176373626807noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6441168213084499367.post-36016425842655605292015-07-30T15:10:16.271-04:002015-07-30T15:10:16.271-04:00Swimming in your private lake. How about after wor...Swimming in your private lake. How about after work? (I got my Speedos on under my suit)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6441168213084499367.post-23230648952937703292015-07-30T14:52:58.017-04:002015-07-30T14:52:58.017-04:00Yes to ...?Yes to ...?C.J. Smithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03325979176373626807noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6441168213084499367.post-14156140909849225662015-07-30T13:41:26.270-04:002015-07-30T13:41:26.270-04:00Yes please!Yes please!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6441168213084499367.post-40171854362710534092015-07-30T13:08:29.279-04:002015-07-30T13:08:29.279-04:00Hi Nora
I actually offered a few times to drive Ha...Hi Nora<br />I actually offered a few times to drive Harry on the weekends when I'd be visiting my parents, drop him off, and pick him up on the way back. I can only assume pride, shame that he could no longer drive himself, or stubbornness prevented him from agreeing. Not knowing where he lives (other than the general area of the Courtice/Oshawa border), I couldn't gently force the issue by spontaneously showing up one Saturday morning.<br />He's actually a pretty quiet gentlemen. I don't know much about his children other than his son lives in East York. <br />I will tell you I always got the sense he was quite lonely but let me tell you, Harry is a true gentlemen... who offered his seat to women who boarded the bus and is just an all round nice man. I can't even remember why we started chatting or what triggered it, but he carries a weathered photo of Milly in wallet and when he first showed it to me, and when he said, "This is how I will always remember her... laughing and dancing ... " OH MY GOSH. I had to look away because of the tears.C.J. Smithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03325979176373626807noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6441168213084499367.post-76862244041170196742015-07-30T12:57:21.987-04:002015-07-30T12:57:21.987-04:00What a kind thing you've done, Cindy - not jus...What a kind thing you've done, Cindy - not just the other day but throughout the time you spent getting to know Harry during what was obviously a very tough period for him. <br /><br />I find myself feeling very badly that Harry's wife was in LTC not in his area. I hope that the grown children who selected this location were nearby and visited often. <br /><br />IMO, it's outrageous that the cost of public transit is so high that this senior (obviously living in a fixed income, and paying for LTC) had to limit his visits to his dying wife. Both my mother and my in-laws are at a distance and in similar circumstances and the distance is not ideal, but it's extra sad to know that Harry would no doubt have spent every day there if not for the steep price tag.<br /><br />So nice that Harry truly sees you as a friend - I am certain he'll be very glad to have an afternoon or evening out with someone who he knows truly cares about him.Nora1968noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6441168213084499367.post-75621586817697554842015-07-30T12:50:07.466-04:002015-07-30T12:50:07.466-04:00That made me tear up! You are very kind and I'...That made me tear up! You are very kind and I'm sure made Harry's day. Your beer date will be the highlight of his week, I'm sure. Good for you for caring!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6441168213084499367.post-3992839434793898012015-07-30T12:46:27.363-04:002015-07-30T12:46:27.363-04:00^ I have a private lake. Are you coming over?^ I have a private lake. Are you coming over?C.J. Smithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03325979176373626807noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6441168213084499367.post-16429873606125660482015-07-30T12:43:32.924-04:002015-07-30T12:43:32.924-04:00You have a swimming pool? You have a swimming pool? Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6441168213084499367.post-40323017792131047882015-07-30T12:42:10.327-04:002015-07-30T12:42:10.327-04:00CJ, this is you. Kindness through and through. I...CJ, this is you. Kindness through and through. I'm certain Harry loved every minute you shared with him.Peternoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6441168213084499367.post-18884041127421554652015-07-30T11:38:17.302-04:002015-07-30T11:38:17.302-04:00Thank you. I appreciate your kind words. Harry and...Thank you. I appreciate your kind words. Harry and I are going to own the bar. Good times for sure!C.J. Smithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03325979176373626807noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6441168213084499367.post-46059221260881564622015-07-30T11:27:59.829-04:002015-07-30T11:27:59.829-04:00You have such a kind heart CJ. What you did for H...You have such a kind heart CJ. What you did for Harry probably meant the world to him. Hearing what you did makes my heart melt. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6441168213084499367.post-9128770659833303152015-07-30T10:49:20.427-04:002015-07-30T10:49:20.427-04:00But I am all those things. I don't deny it. Bu...But I am all those things. I don't deny it. But I am many more things too. Those who love me know what I am capable of. That's all that matters.C.J. Smithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03325979176373626807noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6441168213084499367.post-39497339959137805442015-07-30T10:44:28.359-04:002015-07-30T10:44:28.359-04:00Oh I'll *talk a man out of his beer all right....Oh I'll *talk a man out of his beer all right...<br />C.J. Smithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03325979176373626807noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6441168213084499367.post-67607986721743111422015-07-30T10:43:57.589-04:002015-07-30T10:43:57.589-04:00A lady talking a man out for a beer? I bet you not...A lady talking a man out for a beer? I bet you not in Harry's day!!!<br />Sweet story. Surprising -- really -- since you're usually "intense" and "bitter". Oh ... and don't forget "petty".<br /><br />I couldn't help myself. Don't hate.Chrisnoreply@blogger.com