She was tired of all the hate, she wrote to me in a text. I said she needed to understand digital cruelty can be managed and it starts with how she needs to stop allowing herself to be hurt by people who use anonymity to empower them into being jerks.
I'm not like you, she wrote. I don't have that kind of skin.
She tweeted mostly about being a "lesbian trying to make it in a straight world". It's not like she was out there pushing recipes for chocolate cookies. She chose topics that can cause some very narrow-minded people to lose their fucking minds with hate or ignorance.
People are cruel but they can be downright awful when they can wrap themselves up in a blanket of uninhabited hate.
I've had my share of trolls. I still have trolls. I have people who visit this site every day with the sole purpose of trying to make me guilty or ashamed for topics I write about, pictures I post or comments I've made.
But I've learned to manage the trolls by allowing their comments to help me reflect on who I am as a person. If I feel a shred of guilt, then that's because I feel guilty, not because of an anonymous comment.
Nobody makes you feel anything. You feel what you feel based on decisions you make. .
I really hope she reconsiders her decision.
People who are different have been bullied for too long into silence.
Her tweets were a bright light for a lot of people - straight and gay. Twitter is now a darker place now that she's gone.















