Tuesday, January 28, 2014

What's it to you?

I don't understand this response to anyone who addresses someone indulging in bad, rude or discourteous behaviour.

For example:

Excuse me, could you please not smoke right near the Presto machine?

"What's it to you?"

Hi, could you please not put your hockey bag, sticks, helmet, coat, knapsack all on the seats and leave at least two seats in the quad available as this is an express train?

"What's it to you?"

Could you please turn down your music?

"What's it to you?"

Don't put your wet boots on the seat, please.

"What's it to you?"

I think it's wonderful that you went ahead and had a vasectomy thereby reducing the risk of pro-creating your douchey-ness but must you tell the whole coach in a loud voice how you had the procedure done?

"What's it to you?"

Could you please put out that joint? This is a public bus.

"What's it to you?"

Sigh. This has been my week. I've got nothing. The wit is no longer there. All that's left is rage. Rage and a chainsaw.


Bicky said...

Hmm, that's unfortunate. I'm almost to the point I'd take a payoff to tolerate the bad behaviour.

"What's it to you?"

"Give me $100 cash now, and I walk away. That's what it is to me. Otherwise, stop being an inconsiderate clod. Your mama must be so proud to have raised such a "gentleman". That's what it is to me." (Remember to use the air quotes!)

Okay, I got nothin'.

MATT said...

What's left? Public shaming. Whip out your iPhone and say "Smile! You're going on instagram!"

C.J. Smith said...

It's a tough one, right?

I honestly have no idea what is the best answer to "What's it to you?"

But this has been a week of lots of "What's it to you?"

I have to wonder if we're becoming a society where everyone is defined by an acronymn (ODD, ADHD, LS, ASD) and we all need a manual in how to deal with this selfishness that apparently people with these disorders have no control over.

Anonymous said...

I would think the answer to "What's it to you" is obvious, are people that obtuse? never mind. I already know the answer.

MATT said...

Being self-entitled is not a disorder.

C.J. Smith said...


No, it isn't but I got an email from a mom full of butthurt because her son has ADHD and there was an altercation between her son and a passenger and she asked me to be "mindful" of disorders that could cause others to think the person is being selfish or rude, when really what's happening is they are lacking self-control and exhibiting impulsive behaviour they can't control.

This is where I struggle. My kid has ASD but she still has manners.

Lori said...

Gah, I hate "What's it to you?" What it is to me is if others see the bad behaviors then they feel it's okay for them to do it and then people see those people and it spirals.